SEE The Difference Between Making Love and Having Séx

Making love or having séx, are they the same
thing? How do I differentiate love making from
just having séx? This nature of questions comes
up frequently from spouses and proffering
answers to them may sometimes get all the
parties confused if not well explained.
Basically, making love is when lovers are deeply
in love with each other and indulge in all form of
passionate séx, while having séx may just be
about experiencing érotic pleasure down there.
But oddly enough, both are very necessary in any
marital relationship.
Almost always, ladies say they like making love
simply because it involves lots of touching, long
sénsual foré-play and the like; while many men
can’t help but say they like having séx. However,
gender generalisation may really not be true
because many men prefer love making to having
séx.
Although, making love and having séx may sound
similar, there’s a big emotional difference...

While making love involves the feeling of love,
the spouse connection, love doesn’t really have
to enter the equation when it comes to having
séx. When couples have been in a relationship
with each other for few months or years and they
are deeply attracted to each other, such partners
are probably making sweet love every time both
of them get into bed. Making love is far more
relaxed and slow paced than just having séx. It
brings with it all the hot pleasure of séx and
each time these two emotions come together,
the pleasure would definitely be more intensified.
And the best part about making love is that
there is more room for communication, deep
sharing and prolonged foré-play. Both partners
would not only be comfortable with each other,
they will be aware of each other’s moves and
deepest desires, that naturally may not surface
when having séx.
In one word, séx is just a perfect fusion.
But when it comes to having séx, it is usually
triggered off more from object of attraction,
boiling arousal, séxual famishment, long
abstinence, and prolonged denial. Foré-play is
usually skipped; this type of séx is usually fast
and furiously done in the car, under the shower,
on a road trip, in a private office, at a friend’s
place… anywhere secure and at least semi-
comfortable! In this type of séx, you just want to
have it to quench your arousal-hunger and
endless torture and you wouldn’t care about
awkward positions or cramps and sprains until
the deed is done. While having séx is more of a
pure carnal satisfaction, yet both make séxual
intimacy in marriage spicy.
Sometimes, just having séx with your husband or
wife can be more fun than making love. At the
start of a marital relationship, it’s the séxual
attraction that makes making love feel so séxy.
But when couples make love all the time and
avoid having fast, quickie and furious séx, the
hot rush of passion may start to drop because
neither of the partners is focusing on séxual
attractiveness and triggers.
It is not uncommon that both may be deeply in
love with each other yet séxually unsatisfied due
to lack of what can be called the attraction.
Sometimes, this may even lead to loss of lib-ido,
lack of séxual desire, weak er-éction and some
org-asms challenges.
You can still experience the best love making in
séx and even stay loyal to each other while both
of you exchange hot quick ideas and séxual
thoughts while having séx.
Time of love making helps séxual romance to
bloom; it gives room to communion well and
also helps activate the mind while creating
fantasies and imagination together. Spouses can
even create new and exciting séxual memories.
Time of lovemaking is time of pure openness; it
allows you to say what you are thinking and also
makes you to talk like you’re having an affair.
The séxiest way to talk freely with your partner
is when you are most relaxed; it helps you to
fantasise about passionate moments. In any
successful relationship, couples need a perfect
blending and balance of making love and having
séx. So therefore, when a spouse feels like his or
her partner is not emotionally connected in bed,
that is not the moment to fret.
At times, just having séx can be a good thing
too, just as long as you look for ways to bring
lovemaking back into the bedroom now and
then. Balance the equation; make love, have séx.
The combination can be super!
By Funmi Akingbade